7 Things Porn Won't Teach You About Bisexual Women

7 Things Porn Wont Teach You About Bisexual Women

Fantasies about bisexual women are pretty ubiquitous. From the 'one time in college' cliche, to the entire porn industry, it's not hard to find an overly-sexualized version of bisexual experiences.

But since we don't believe everything we see on TV or the internet, we wanted to take a moment to talk to some for-real bisexual women about their experiences and daily lives, and see what they think about the assumptions and stereotypes surrounding their sexuality.



So we spoke to Alexandra Bolles, Audrey White, and Hannah Hodson. As we are trans , we are women of all races.'

Bolles says that, with the general public becoming increasingly familiar with the diversities of the LGBT community, people now understand that there’s not just one way to be a feminine woman, or to be a queer person. She acknowledges, for example, that she is a woman, Armenian, an Episcopalian, a feminist, and bisexual. But that’s not all she is; she also loves corgi Instagram accounts and has no idea how to cook.

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    White, Hodson, and Bolles all remarked on how important their respective support systems are. Bolles says she was very luck to have an incredibly supportive and loving network of family and friends. For people who want to be allies, she recommends staying informed on issues that affect the LGBT community. They also need to think critically about portrayals in news and entertainment media.

    Hodson explained that bisexual erasure and stereotypes are found in the LGBT community as well. When she was in college, she often felt ostracized because she didn’t feel queer enough. She also worried that her heterosexual relationships would be criticized. According to Hodson, this led to me downplaying my sexuality in a time when I should have been exploring it…I sort of had to force myself into a second coming out after I left.

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    Because this is Women’s History Month, we also wanted to find out who their LGBT role models were. White called out Roxane Gay, Alison Bechdel, and Janet Mock – as well as Riese Bernard and the Autostraddle team. Hodson, who also mentioned Gay, name-checked Angel Haze for killing the rap game. Bolles cited Carrie Brownstein for her work on Transparent.

    Bolles acknowledged that they have few people to hold up as publicly owning ‘bisexual’ as an identity, but that’s why she believes every person who is able to be open and honest about their identity is already starting to make a difference.

  • If you want to learn more about how to be a better ally, visit GLAAD , The Trevor Project , and Look Different .