9 Myths About Dating Someone Younger Than You
Falling for someone is a process that comes with all kinds of questions along the way. Regardless of the answers, most of us like to believe that love can conquer any differences. One of these concerns might be an age difference.
An age gap can come with some challenges, just like all relationships come with their own challenges. There's never going to be a magic number of years between you two that determines whether or not it'll work out. So whether you're dating someone younger than you or unfairly judging someone for doing so, here are some assumptions you might want to check at the door.
- Older people are creepy.
Every time any of us put ourselves out there romantically, we run the risk of seeming like creeps because we're being vulnerable. As long as the two people involved are being respectful of each other's boundaries, there's nothing to judge here.
- Younger people are immature.
Determining someone's maturity level is a lot more complicated than a simple math problem. Your personality, life experience and a ton of other factors -- including your age -- are involved. Dating a younger guy or gal doesn't mean that they can't be as mature (if not more) than someone your own age or older. And let's face it, making these assumptions isn't a grown-up way to approach dating, either.
- You don't have anything in common.
If you've ever met someone where the only thing you have in common is your age, you know that can get old really fast. But it can also serve as a nice reminder that your age doesn't have to dictate a certain personality. There are plenty of people in this world to connect with on the basis of so much more than how many years you've been alive.
- You can't understand each other's references.
If you can't keep up with the references of someone you care about because of a few years' age difference, then you really aren't trying. You have the internet, so use it.
- Your relationship with each other has something to do with your relationship with your parents.
People are so quick to cry mommy or daddy issues when they encounter a couple with any sort of age difference. Typically this kind of judgement comes from outsiders who have little to do with the people in the relationship. Not only do these opinions not matter, they say a lot more about those expressing them than the couple in question. You could arguably trace any decision, romantic or otherwise, back to your parents if you try hard enough, but there's no need to obsess over that.
- It's all about money.
Two people in a real relationship are almost never going to make exactly the same amount of money. Someone always has to earn less, but this can always change over time, and it's never a reflection of either person's age. Plenty of young people make bank , and no one at any age likes to be used for that. If this is happening in a relationship, then the problem is much bigger than a DOB.
- Younger people are completely different from your peers.
Younger people are from a few years after you -- not a different planet. Of course they're different people who bring different perspectives, but these differences aren't determined by age alone. And this is good for romance because you most likely don't want to date yourself.
- It can't be a deep relationship.
Being physically attracted to each other is a normal, healthy part of relationships, but that's rarely the only reason why people are in them. When there's an age gap, it's easier to unfairly assume that the attraction is only physical. Being attracted to someone rarely makes you ignore every other aspect of connection, though, so a majority of relationships come with depth.
- You care what people think.
Whether you're the younger person in a relationship, the older one, or the outsider judging from afar, the heart wants what the heart wants. People who want to be with each other generally don't care about a few years' age difference or about what anyone else has to say about it. We all want to find love and when we do, we just want people to accept and support that as long as no one gets hurt. So let's give couples (and each other) the benefit of the doubt and leave the math out of it.