This Is How Girl Feels When You Won T Accept That She Doesn T Like You
'If at first you don't succeed, try, try again.' 'Never, never, never give up.' We've all been told from a young age that persistence is key -- that we will get what we want if we just try long enough and hard enough. While this may be true (and inspirational) in sports and careers, it's far from constructive when it comes to dating.
In fact, you may be making the very girl whom you care so much about extremely uncomfortable with your ceaseless attempts to woo her. Just take it from YouTube user DoeEyes in the trending video 'Dear Boy Who Likes My Daughter':
If a girl has flat-out told you 'no,' or if she's ignoring your calls, texts and messages, then she's not playing hard to get; she's telling you outright that she's impossible to get. Yes. Impossible.
Know when it's time to let go of that crush, regardless of how many hours you've spent listening to sappy music and thinking about her, and remember that in all of your attempts to talk her into liking you, you have not been the only person involved. Here's how she's feeling while you're busy making sure, for the umpteenth time, that she knows about your feelings.
- She feels guilty for not liking you back.
Girls are programmed from an early age to be very aware of everyone's feelings and even to take responsibility for them. She knows that it hurts your feelings that she doesn't like you back, and this is making her feel like she's done something wrong.
Every time you approach her, you're putting her in this situation. Sorry, buddy, but the only person who should feel remorse in this situation is you, for not respecting her boundaries.
- She's angry.
After a certain number of encounters wherein you try to trick her into being attracted to you, her guilt has boiled over into resentment. She is, rightly so, mad that you're putting her in this situation, and looks at you, not as a sweet guy who asked her out once, but as a self-centered ass who continues to push your agenda, regardless of her wishes. Quit while you're behind.
- She's annoyed.
Never, in all of dude history, has a guy won over a girl by making her roll her eyes and let out another exasperated sigh -- yet this is an all-too-common experience that nearly every girl has dealt with. Your relentless texts and messages aren't flattering; they're annoying at best. It's taking your unresolved feelings and dumping them in her lap with an enthusiastic, 'Here! You deal with this!'
Regroup and focus on finding a girl who'll be stoked to get a (as in one ) message from you.
- She feels disrespected.
This is probably because ... uh ... she is. In your mind, you may be putting her up on a pedestal and worshipping the ground she walks on, but ironically, you're also treating her like crap.
When someone tells you 'no,' and you refuse to accept that, what you're saying with your actions are 'your feelings are less important than mine' and 'you don't actually know what's good for you.' If you really want to show her how much you care, leave her alone. She'll let you know if and when she cares to have you be a part of her life. She's a smart girl. (Which you know, because you've written, like, three songs about it.)
- She's worried for her safety.
You're not a threat, but unfortunately, there's no way for her to know that. Girls have to constantly be on the lookout for their safety in a way that's tough to understand if you've never been in that position.
If you're writing her poems and leaving her notes and 'accidentally' bumping into her on the way to 4th period, she's starting to worry that next you're going to pop up outside of her bedroom or in the backseat of her car. There's nothing romantic about giving a girl panic sweats.